From my friend Bilal and his wife Tahira-
"Alieux, while looking for a wife, you really need to try to adopt. You're a great guy and you'd be a great father. You are depriving yourself of the fatherhood I know you desire. There are lots of young black boys that could use someone like you in their lives. You don't have to be someone's husband to be a dad."
I teared up when I heard that.