Sunday, January 31, 2016

A course correction.

Some people are not meant to be your friend, but for some reason you might think that every person who crosses your path who seems cool and makes you laugh, you should hang out with them and make them a part of your life. Wrong.
God will make a course correction; when the communication and socialization abruptly ends for no reason, and you don't hear from that person anymore, don't be disappointed. Smile- it's Gods way of removing them. 

They're obviously not meant to be in your life.

I have friendships that have lasted 40, 30, 20, 10, 5+ years without my having to do all the heavy lifting. I have had friendships that have basically lasted months. I would text to see how they're doing, or to plan lunch, or to see a movie or whatever, and suddenly they seem to fall of the face of the earth.

I'm smiling,
 I should be focusing on friendships after which I don't have to chase.

Friday, January 29, 2016

Song in my head....Chrisette Michele - If I Have My Way

Sunday, January 24, 2016

-Mavis Staples

...While I'm sittin' here waitin' on U
U know somebody somewhere's waitin' on me

--Mavis Staples

So far,

2016 has been good to me. How has it been for you? Are you working towards any resolutions? Don't give up! 

Make this the year of YOU. 

That's what I'm doing. This is my year.

Monday, January 18, 2016

A New Attitude

I used to ask myself why doesn't she like me?

Now I say to myself  her loss, because I know I'm a good guy.

 I'm not going to say it's easy. I consistently go back to my old ways of finding faults with my self, but I am trying to leave that behind in 2015. My new attitude helps me to move on and stop feeling sorry for myself  and to search for my soulmate. I had to make this change, because I really am a good guy. I am deserving of love and happiness, and I'm determined to find it this year.

I wanna dance!

I can relate!

Happy MLK DAY!

I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality... I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

Sunday, January 17, 2016

Friday, January 15, 2016

The Flotus and her mom

I told you

That whenever I feel backed in a corner, God always intervenes and makes a way out of no way.

And He did that again!

Thank You!

Thanks for all your prayers!

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Work on me

Work on me Dear Lord,
Please do a work on me.
Use my  mouth
to speak words of comfort to those in need.
Use my hands
 to uphold someone who is falling.
Use my legs
 to support someone who can’t stand anymore.
Use my eyes
 to see the beauty in others when they fail to see it in themselves.
Do a work in me Dear Lord:
strengthen my mind
so that I stop worrying even after I’ve handed my problems over to You.
Work on me, please,
And thank You.
Alieux Casey-George

That melanin tho/ FLOTUS 2016

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Thank you!

A way out of no way.

"When fishing, the best way to collect fish is to use the kind of bait you know they want."

-Alieux Casey-George

One of my friends alternates between doubt and full-belief that there is no higher power.

I don't try to shove my faith in God down people's throats, but I do like to talk about Him, to people who are willing to listen. This friend and I talk alot about different things, and recently, I was talking to him about how I know that God is working on a problem I'm currently facing. My friend said that he's beginning to doubt God's existence altogether.  I listened to him before responding. I wasn't trying to convert him. I never want people to feel I'm trying to convert them. I just wanted to tell him about the many times I have felt backed into a corner and God has always found a way out, in ways that make my friends speechless, because they didn't see a way out at all. To use on of my mom's phrases, God will make a way out of no way.
So, I mentioned one of many miracles;

When I moved from Madison Wisconsin to Gaithersburg Maryland in 1998, I completed all the paperwork necessary to make sure my last payheck from my previous job would be a papercheck and not electronically deposited into my checking account. Starting a new job, I needed my full paycheck since it would be 3 weeks before I would get my first paycheck. I had outstanding debts in my old checking account that I wanted to pay off later on.  Anyway, my old boss forgot to send in the paperwork, and my last paycheck went to my old account, and the balance was $40. She profusely appologized when I called her.  I surely could not live off of $40 for 3 weeks. I would need money for gas, for  groceries, for food for my cat Georgio, etc.
On the way home from work at my new job, I talked to God,saying " Lord, you know how much I have to live off of until I get paid. How am I gonna do it?"

Guess what was waiting for me in my mailbox? A full paycheck from my previous employer! And no, it wasn't vacation pay.  I used up all my vacation time. They didn't owe me anything. I said, 'look at God,' and I fell to my knees and I thanked Him. Before I cashed it, I held onto it for 2 days, thinking maybe my job erred in sending it to me. No one called or emailed about it so I cashed it. And no one has ever contacted me about it. I kept that paystub as a reminder that God is in charge of miracles. My friend responded with, "and my brother was able to get Amazon prime for free for 2 years,"  but I explained that my situation was indeed a miracle because I prayed for favor, and when I got home, the favor was there, waiting for me. It wasn't there 3 weeks later, or a month. It was there right when I needed it.  I kept that paystub in my Bible, and that Bible has since been misplaced, but I still remember the paystub. 

After that, my friend was speechless. I provided other testimonies, and he agreed that these occurrences where I found a way out defies logic.

 I smiled.


                              “We should not fear the future, but shape it.”
                                               -President Obama

This evening was President Obama's last State Of The Union Address. You can watch it here

Monday, January 11, 2016

The First

UK's Sunday Times Style Magazine Crowns Michelle Obama as Fashion Queen

Michelle Obama has been crowned a fashion queen by Britain's Sunday Times style magazine. The first lady topped the publication's best-dressed list and to promote the issue, a stamp image of Obama in a crown and posing as royalty has been released.

The first-class postage stamp portrait is traditionally that of the British Queen, but FLOTUS has regal status in her own country as she's currently gracing the cover of the US fashion bible Vogue wearing a blue and purple Reed Krakoff dress.

Sunday, January 10, 2016


Life is just a short walk from the cradle to the grave, and it sure behooves us to be kind to one another along the way.

--Alice Childress

Saturday, January 9, 2016

That Melanin Tho

Presidential Selfie


How much?

I love my God daughter and her family. I love my best friend. I love my other friends. I love my mom. I love my sister. I love my nephew. More than any human being, I love my kitty, Isaiah. I love him so much.
But much more than Isaiah, I love God, much much more. 

That's much I love Him. 
He giveth, and He can taketh everything and everyone away. 

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Tall Black Guy - Black_Skin

About stumbling

Don't stumble over something behind you. 

Where do you live? You may be thinking about your city, country and state – that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’d like to suggest that we all live in our thoughts, regardless of our physical locations.

With this in mind, how often do your thoughts go to past events and experiences that were negative and upsetting? As humans, we have the ability to instantly travel back in time, to revisit and yes, stumble over these same events along with all their limiting feelings.


Imagine that you are born with an installed-at-the-factory time machine that has three settings: past, present and future. How can you, through greater self-awareness and intentionality, limit your negative journeys backwards to maximize your living in and experiencing of the present – and perhaps venture forward from time to time into the delightful possibilities of the future?

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Disappear Fear

I have decided that with The Lord's help, I will have an exciting year. I will remove my self-doubts and fears that have kept me stagnant, even if it means talking  to someone professionally or hanging with friends who will push me to try harder.  I want this year to be my year, and 6 days in, I want to hit the ground running. 

What you don't know about me

 I do my best, most creative, most kafkaesque writing when I have Igor Stravinsky's Rite of Spring or Chaka Khan's Sticky Wicked ( featuring Miles Davis and Prince), or Miles Davis' Bitches Brew or Prince's Cloreen Baconskin or anything by John Coltrane playing in the background. Or  if I'm drunk.

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Setting The Standard

-A Father's job is not to teach his daughter how to be a lady. It is to teach her, how a lady should be treated-
-Simply because, Every daughter needs a Dad to be the standard, against which she will judge all men. 
Without having any kids yet, I already know that my daughter will have me so wrapped around her finger! She'll be my princess and she'll see that her mother will be treated like a queen. 

PBUH Teena Marie, 5 years ago today

Janet Jackson - Again

The hardest task

Is to find someone to love and for that person to love you back.

If it's God's will (and I hope it is) I'll find her this year.

 Sooner rather than later.

Monday, January 4, 2016



Natalie Cole, the daughter of jazz legend Nat King Cole, who carved out her own success with R&B hits like "Our Love" and "This Will Be" before triumphantly intertwining their legacies to make his "Unforgettable" their signature hit through technological wizardry, has died. She was 65.
While Cole was a Grammy winner in her own right, she had her greatest success in 1991 when she re-recorded her father's classic hits - with him on the track - for the album "Unforgettable ... With Love." It became a multiplatinum smash and garnered her multiple Grammy Awards, including album of the year.
Cole died Thursday evening at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles due to complications from ongoing health issues, her family said in a statement.
"Natalie fought a fierce, courageous battle, dying how she lived ... with dignity, strength and honor. Our beloved Mother and sister will be greatly missed and remain UNFORGETTABLE in our hearts forever," read the statement from her son Robert Yancy and sisters Timolin and Casey Cole.
"I had to hold back the tears. I know how hard she fought," said Aretha Franklin in a statement. "She fought for so long. She was one of the greatest singers of our time."
Other celebrities honored Cole on social media. In a tweet, actress Marlee Matlin called Cole a lovely songbird and a great actress, writing "she is now singing in heaven." Patti LaBelle tweeted, "She will be truly missed but her light will shine forever!"
Natalie Cole had battled drug problems and hepatitis that forced her to undergo a kidney transplant in May 2009. Cole's older sister, Carol "Cookie" Cole, died the day she received the transplant. Their brother, Nat Kelly Cole, died in 1995.
Natalie Cole was inspired by her dad at an early age and auditioned to sing with him when she was just 11 years old. She was 15 when he died of lung cancer, in 1965.
She began as an R&B singer but later gravitated toward the smooth pop and jazz standards that her father loved.
Cole's greatest success came with her 1991 album, "Unforgettable ... With Love," which paid tribute to her father with reworked versions of some of his best-known songs, including "That Sunday That Summer," ''Too Young" and "Mona Lisa."
Her voice was spliced with her dad's in the title cut, offering a delicate duet a quarter-century after his death.
The album sold some 14 million copies and won six Grammys, including album of the year as well record and song of the year for the title track duet.
While making the album, Cole told The Associated Press in 1991, she had to "throw out every R&B lick that I had ever learned and every pop trick I had ever learned. With him, the music was in the background and the voice was in the front."
"I didn't shed really any real tears until the album was over," Cole said. "Then I cried a whole lot. When we started the project it was a way of reconnecting with my dad. Then when we did the last song, I had to say goodbye again."
She was also nominated for an Emmy award in 1992 for a televised performance of her father's songs.
"That was really my thank you," she told People magazine in 2006. "I owed that to him."
Another father-daughter duet, "When I Fall in Love," won a 1996 Grammy for best pop collaboration with vocals, and a follow-up album, "Still Unforgettable," won for best traditional pop vocal album of 2008.
Cole made her recording debut in 1975 with "Inseparable." The music industry welcomed her with two Grammy awards in 1976 - one for best new artist and one for best female R&B vocal performance for her buoyant hit "This Will Be (An Everlasting Love)."
She also worked as an actress, with appearances on TV's "Touched by an Angel" and "Grey's Anatomy."
But she was happiest touring and performing live.
"I still love recording and still love the stage," she said on her website in 2008, "but like my dad, I have the most fun when I am in front of that glorious orchestra or that kick-butt big band."
Cole was born in 1950 to Nat "King" Cole and his wife, Maria Ellington Cole, a onetime vocalist with Duke Ellington who was no relation to the great bandleader.
Her father was already a recording star, and he rose to greater heights in the 1950s and early '60s. He toured worldwide, and in 1956 he became the first black entertainer to host a national TV variety show, though poor ratings and lack of sponsors killed it off the following year. He also appeared in a few movies and spoke out in favor of civil rights.
Natalie Cole grew up in Los Angeles' posh Hancock Park neighborhood, where her parents had settled in 1948 despite animosity from some white residents about having the black singer as a neighbor. When told by residents who said they didn't want "undesirable people" in the area, the singer said, "Neither do I, and if I see (any), I'll be the first to complain."
The family eventually included five children.
Natalie Cole started singing seriously in college, performing in small clubs.
But in her 2000 autobiography, "Angel on My Shoulder," Cole discussed how she had battled heroin, crack cocaine and alcohol addiction for many years. She spent six months in rehab in 1983.
When she announced in 2008 that she had been diagnosed with hepatitis C, a liver disease spread through contact with infected blood, she blamed her past intravenous drug use.
She criticized the Recording Academy for giving five Grammys to drug user Amy Winehouse in 2008.
"I'm an ex-drug addict and I don't take that kind of stuff lightly," Cole explained at the 2009 Grammy Awards. Hepatitis C "stayed in my body for 25 years and it could still happen to this young woman or other addicts who are fooling around with drugs, especially needles."
Cole received chemotherapy to treat the hepatitis and "within four months, I had kidney failure," she told CNN's Larry King in 2009. She needed dialysis three times a week until she received a donor kidney on May 18, 2009. The organ procurement agency One Legacy facilitated the donation from a family that had requested that their donor's organ go to Cole if it was a match.
Cole toured through much of her illness, often receiving dialysis at hospitals around the globe.
"I think that I am a walking testimony to you can have scars," she told People magazine. "You can go through turbulent times and still have victory in your life."
Fekadu reported from New York.

From the Associated Press. 

I was sad to hear about her death when I woke up on January 1.  It just goes to show you;  tomorrow isn't promised to us.  Why waste the time holding grudges or procrastinating doing something that needs to be done. Tomorrow you might not have the chance.

Below are a few of my favorite songs of hers. 

Sunday, January 3, 2016

Lesson Learned


The new year has arrived. I hope that it brings you everything your heart desires, and then some.

I handed over my worries to God a few weeks ago to deal with. That's not to say that I don't worry about it. I just have to always remind myself that I gave it to Him, so why should I worry?   I have been backed into a corner many times in my life, and God has always let me be victorious.  I know that He did not bring me this far to leave me.

So I am thanking Him in advance for favor, and at the same time asking that He ordain my footsteps.

This year will be about optimism and love and financial blessings and more writing and more baking and more quality time with friends and family. And volunteering.  I have decided to forgive someone even though she doesn't feel she did anything wrong. The forgiveness isn't for her. Its for me. I don't need the burden of holding onto grudges.  This year will be about progression and not regression. I'll spend less time on Facebook and more time on sites that will help me achieve goals. No more Real Housewives of Atlanta and more cooking shows. I intend to find a book publisher for my poetry and get over my shyness and do some open mikes. I intend to get 8 hours of sleep at night starting tonight. I discovered I had spent about $2900 in the company cafeteria in 2015. I will get up early enough to make breakfast and my espresso, and lunch, at home. I will put myself on a budget. 

2016 will be my year. I'm claiming it, in the name of Jesus, Amen

Sounds Of Blackness - I'm Going All The Way