Saturday, May 30, 2015

Jody Watley - Real Love

The quote I live by;

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

                  --Maya Angelou.

(I cannot count the number of people whose words were never followed up with action)


photo by tony karumba of a somali girl taking shelter under her father as they queue for a meal at the dadaab refugee camp in eastern kenya


I don't have any daughters yet, but if  I ever do, I pledge to be the first good man she knows.

Monday, May 25, 2015

Maybe it's me

But if I had a friend who spends a lot of time by himself (and if I knew he was lonely), and he's a great cook and baker who brings treats to every event he's invited to , and whatever he brings is always eaten up quickly ( and he's always asked for recipes), I would call him up to see if he has plans for the holidays.
 Maybe it's just me. 
So for this Memorial Day weekend, I barbecued enough ribs and bratwurst and made enough potato salad, collard greens and cornbread to last me the next couple weeks. And I made a red velvet cake that I'm going to eat.
 All. By. Myself. 


Maple Bacon Biscuits I made for a monthly brunch on Saturday 



Thursday, May 21, 2015


Donyale Luna . 1967. One of the first black supermodels. So beautiful that Salvador Dali even claimed that she's the reincarnation of the Egyptian Queen Nefertiti.


-- also called "appleskives" are traditional Danish pancakes in a distinctive shape of a sphere.


Someone made these on Master Chef last night, and considering Chef Gordon Ramsey said they were like round pancakes, I had to try them. I love pancakes. I had some Key Lime Cake batter left over from Sunday, so I made these myself tonight. Ate one-gave the rest to neighbors.
They loved them.

Friday, May 15, 2015

The Last Time

Jody Watley 'Still a Thrill' Extended Version

The Thrill Is Gone.

My grandfather played the hell out of your 8 track tapes when I was a kid. I had no choice but to listen and get to love you and your music. Perhaps now my grandfather can hear you play, in person. 

R I P 

The "King of the Blues" guitarist and singer BB King has died aged 89.
King, known for his hits Lucille, Sweet Black Angel and Rock Me Baby, died in his sleep in Las Vegas.
Born in Mississippi, King began performing in the 1940s, going on to influence a generation of musicians, and working with Eric Clapton and U2.
Once ranked as the third greatest guitarist of all time, he had been suffering ill health in recent months.
He was recently taken to hospital with a diabetes-related illness.
A former farmhand, King was awarded his 15th Grammy award in 2009 for his album One Kind Favor.
He was also inducted into both the Blues Foundation Hall of Fame and the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.
Rolling Stone magazine placed him behind only Jimi Hendrix and Duane Allman in its list of the 100 greatest guitarists of all time.
Until recently, King performed in at least 100 concerts a year.

'Heartfelt vocals'

He fused together both jazz and blues on his beloved guitar, a Gibson ES-344 he lovingly dubbed "Lucille".
In the early part of his career, he played to exclusively black audiences, but his heartfelt vocals and undeniable talent saw him embraced by a much broader fanbase as time went on - touring Europe and topping the charts.
Younger musicians such as Clapton and Steve Miller, who admired his work, introduced him to a new generation of fans in the late '60s with hits like The Thrill is Gone.

Thursday, May 14, 2015

I am substantial

“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.”

Criss Jami, Salomé: In Every Inch In Every Mile

I'm going to stop holding grudges. This doesn't mean I'm going to forget what people have done and will resume a friendship/relationship. It just means I'm not going to carry it around with me. Holding a grudges is like having a knapsack full of bricks. I'm unloading the bricks, and leaving them behind. I'd rather have my knapsack filled with books, of my gym clothes, or bakeware- things I would utilize.

I'm going to forgive people, even if they don't ask for forgiveness. I'm not doing this for them. I'm doing this for me.

After all, how can I ask God to forgive me of my sins if I'm not willing to forgive?

That is all.

Have a great day!

I couldn't sleep,

So I made a red velvet bundt cake

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

For $ale

they say if you scared
then go to church,
but remember, he knows the Bible too....

For Sale,  by  Kendrick Lamar

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Van Hunt- Old Hat

My Facebook Post This Morning

Yesterday was a good day. Not only did I get a promotion at work, I was also asked to be sent the results of the gender of a baby two friends of mine are having; for an upcoming gender reveal celebration, I get to bake a cake that will be either blue or pink, depending on the gender results of which I will know before the parents do. That is indeed an honor!
I don't know what I'll make, but a White Chocolate-Cake-with Mascarpone-Coconut-Frosting comes to mind.

Thursday, May 7, 2015

No regrets

"No regrets, just lessons learned."

-Porsha Stewart,  when asked by Wendy Williams if she had any regrets. 

I'm going to apply that motto to my life as well.

The 'Exasperated Kid' Gets a Heartwarming Surprise

Ellen Meets the ‘Exasperating’ Kid! :)

Too much?

My friends say I do too much. 

For Mother's Day, not only do I send my mother a Mother's Day card; I also send my sister a Mother's Day card. After all, she's the mother of my nephew. I love them both, and I'm glad she's his mother.  I also send my God-daughter's mom a Mother's Day card.  She is the mother of  the prettiest 8 year old girl in the world.  I also send my best friend's mom a Mother's Day card. After all, she treats me like one of her kids. When she comes to town to visit her son, she expects to see me as well, and she cooks for me, and we talk, and I can tell her things I wouldn't tell my mom and she gives me advice.

A coworker tells me, 'these women are not your mother,'   but these women I love and appreciate. I'm a giving person. I don't do it to impress people. It's my natural expression; to show love and appreciation for who they are.

I also send my God-daughter's dad a Father's Day card each Father's Day. After all, he chose me out of all his friends to be the God Father- a role I take seriously. And I'm glad he's the dad to my God-daughter.

Is it too much?

My sister always asks me if my halo ever gets too heavy...


Is one of the icons for my side hustle- my baking business. Worth of mouth is getting around, and I'm even getting the support of the director at my full time job. She places orders quite frequently.  I don't want this to blow up to something too big for me to have to quit my full time job. I love baking, but I wouldn't want it to be something I had to do to make a living. My goal is to net $100 a week.  This week I made $210. That's because people have been ordering cakes and cupcakes for Mothers  day.
I love it!

I already have my plane fare saved for my trip to Paris again. Now I need to save for housing and spending money

Monday, May 4, 2015

Remember this? Call Me - Skyy © 2011 Verse Music Group OFFICIAL VIDEO

Q & A

Do you know what's real?

The Struggle. 

The cost

When asked why he is so giving and nurturing and loving, he said, "I've learned the cost of not loving enough." - Anonymous

God saw it; that's all that matters.

I was at Whole Foods during lunch, and I was the next person in line and an older guy entered the line from the wrong end and the cashier directed him to the back of the line. Behind me were about 10 people. So, as the older man hobbled along with a carton of milk in his hand, as he passed me, I noticed there was an available casher and so I told the gentleman he could go next. Without saying thanks or making any acknowledgment whatsoever, he approached the cashier. There was a woman with her son behind me. I overheard him say, "he let that old man skip us in line!" The mother said, "he's like grandpa's age. Would you let grandpa walk to the back of the line or let him ahead of you?" He said, " I'd let him skip." I smiled listening to the conversation.
After paying for my purchase, the lady noticed that the man didn't even say thank you, and I told her her, " I know, but God saw it. It would have been nice to get a thank you, but God saw the gesture. That's all I need." And she and her son smiled at me.